What you're doing looks like it should be fine so either you're doing something wrong without realising it or something is broken in your project.
One possibility is that you think you're using the default instance but you actually aren't because you have declared a variable with the same name as the type and are therefore using that. In this code:
Private Sub OrificeCalculationsMenuItem1_Click(ByVal sender As System.Object, ByVal e As System.EventArgs) Handles OrificeCalculationsMenuItem1.Click
'orificeflowcalcs.ShowDialog()
[B]orificeflowcalcs[/B].Show()
End Sub
Private Sub ConfigurationsToolStripMenuItem1_Click(ByVal sender As System.Object, ByVal e As System.EventArgs) Handles ConfigurationsToolStripMenuItem.Click
'configurations.ShowDialog()
configurations.Show()
End Sub
Private Sub CalculationToolStripMenuItem1_Click(ByVal sender As System.Object, ByVal e As System.EventArgs) Handles CalculationToolStripMenuItem.Click
'databasefields.ShowDialog()
databasefields.Show()
End Sub
you should right-click on the `orificeflowcalcs` and select `Go to Definition` or the like. If that navigates to a variable then that's your issue. If it doesn't then something in your project is broken and you may have to recreate that form.